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Misconceptions and Stereotypes

For anyone who does not know. I am the President of The Alliance, my name is Storm and I am human. As much as I like to keep things official and professional when dealing with anything concerning The Alliance I am again just human. With that being said, let me talk about Carson Daly and his mess up on public TV

Daly said

 “Most of the people were on their way to some sort of security conference in Las Vegas … it was like a bunch of dudes and well trained dudes … thank god.”

 He laughingly continued, “With my luck, it would be like … ‘this is the flight going to [the gay pride parade] in San Francisco … I mean, that would be my colleagues.”

Then, changing his voice to sound like a gay stereotype, Carson said, “Uh, we’re headed down to Vegas for the floral convention.” via   ON MAR 29, 2012 IN REAL TALK

So he has been apologizing for his statement ever since. He even was reprimanded by the mother of Mark Bingham. You remember him right? He was the young gay man who defended himself, the passengers,crew and his Country on United Airlines Flight 93 on September 11, 2001. A gay man who founded his own company The Bingham Group. Mark’s mother states that he always brought her flowers on her birthday and on mother’s day. There is nothing about him being a florist, a queen, a clothes designer or anything of the sort. Besides so what if he was, does this mean he is not a strong person? A brave person? Someone who can kick butt when needed? 

Ok so Carson made a huge blunder and on TV, lets talk about society’s views on homosexuals and start breaking the pigeon holes open. 

What are some of the stereotypes and misconceptions about homosexuals and gender-morphic identity people ? 

Gay men are sissies? They arrange flowers, plan weddings, design clothes, dress in women’s clothing, give the best parties ever (actually that one might be true), drive Prius cars (Jeff Dunham joke) and have the utmost desire to have small dogs. 

Lesbian women are PE teachers? They work on cars, fix machines, teach gym class (oh I said that already, such a popular one) want to really be men, want to take all the straight women and make them lesbians, get toaster ovens for doing so, and have the utmost desire to have big dogs named Butch. 

Oh there are so many more, let’s not forget bisexuals

Bisexuals want the cake and eat it too? Can’t make up their minds, like to lead people on, have no idea what it means to be gay, oh and lets not forget, they must be poly amorous because they can’t just settle for one gender. 

Transgender people are all gay, You can tell a transwoman by the size of her hands.. MTFs are really just men, FTMs are really just women. 

Oh and lets not forget.. all homosexuals or gender-morphic identity people are predators, perverts and pedophiles. Oh and recently Demonically possessed. 

So where does this lead us? How do we prove that these stereotypes and misconceptions are all wrong?

Let’s go through it a little. Demonically possessed? Really? Are you seriously suggesting that someone who defends his country, people he doesn’t even know so that they can stay free is possessed by a demon? This statement covers Mark Bingham, every person that stood up for someone, and every gay and lesbian soldier who is or was in the service. I can’t even begin to say how ridiculous this statement is. 

Obviously we all know that the statements I made above (stereotypes and misconceptions) are all crap. 

I can sit here and give examples all day long. I am a transman, anyone who knows me knows I am certainly not a woman even with the equipment still attached to my chest I am not a woman. But you know what, people are going to look at me and think woman. Though plans are in progress to change that, it can never happen fast enough for me, and strangers have no idea what my life is like. So I cannot get mad at them right now nor fault them when they refer to me as a woman. 

I know many gay men who are very masculine and do not look gay in the least bit. Gay men who are lawyers, CPA’s, soldiers, construction workers and football players. But yes, I do also know many who arrange a mean floral arrangement, and perform in drag shows. But let me tell you something. This does not mean they cannot kick butt if need be. I would rather face a mother bear than face a Queen who is ticked off. 

Has anyone ever heard of lipstick lesbians? Oh I know the ones in the community and friends of have heard of them. But the general public sometimes have no idea. I know many lesbians who have no interest in fixing cars, don’t want grease on their hands and have no interest in turning a straight woman gay. No one has an interest in that and besides you cannot turn anyone gay, they either are, or aren’t. 

Lets get something else straight (no pun intended) Bisexuals are not sluts, whores, cheaters or anything of the sort. They have the amazing ability to look at a person and decide whether they like that person based on their personality and not their gender. Gender is pretty important to the rest of us. It may not be the sole purpose, but lets face it, it is pretty important. Will a gay man think about being with a female? Or a lesbian with a male? 

Now let’s talk about appearances. I know a young man, 18, wears jeans, t-shirts a hat with paint on it, and sports scruff on his face most days. Walk into the room at the right time and you will see this young man switch his hip and come out with “OH girl you did not!” Ahhh so this is a young budding Queen huh? 

Nope that is my son, straight, loves women and is not afraid to be effeminate. If anyone threatens me, or his family he is right there to try and protect. 

Some people just think they have it all figured out by looking at someone. 

I was in love with my middle school PE teacher.. guess what? She wasn’t a lesbian. Had a husband, three kids and very much into men. I won’t say how I know that. 

Everyone, the community, society,and individuals really need to work to get these misconceptions cleared up. Yes we have said it before, and we will say it again and again. Perseverance is a must in this task, I hope I have helped just a little bit.  

 

 

Progress is Wonderful

Hello again folks! We have been very busy lately, so much so that I have had barely any time to update our blog. Sad to say that, but I am getting better and I think I have a plan to which things will be updated more often. There are so many things to talk about these days, but one thing I would like to remind everyone about is the places to find The Alliance.

Facebook- http://www.facebook.com/groups/sandhillsglbtstraightalliance/

Twitter- @thealliancenc

Website- http://www.thealliancenc.net

Meetup- http://www.meetup.com/The-Alliance-NC/

Of course our blog here and NOW NEW NEXT Big thing is our online newsletter

Newsletter- http://thealliancenc1.blogspot.com/ – Changing Times

Come on out and be a part of The Alliance.

Do some of you not know who The Alliance is? We are a LGBTQ organization based in Fayetteville, NC (don’t worry you do not have to live here to be a part of us)

Our purpose is to educate, advocate and support the members of our community along with our straight allies. We have some awesome members working in the organization that are doing their utmost best to make things better for people here in our community.

We have had a meeting with the Humans Relations Committee to discuss ways we can work with the city to help certain areas learn about policies and to help change them. One of our upcoming events is to team up with Operation Bullyhorn to go to the open school board meeting and express our concerns with bullying and the efforts needed in place to help protect our LGBTQ youth.

As much as some of us have fun with the advocating part of our mission we also like to have some fun. In doing that our fun likes to be just a bit educating and supporting as we put together our First Spring Fling Drag Queen and King Pageant on April 20th 2012.

We will be discussing important issues such as Amendment One and how it affects us as well as encouraging people to get out and vote against the amendment.

We have another protest scheduled just days before the vote, since our first one on March 10th was so successful we decided we would have another one. This time I think I can say the press will be there for us as I talked to one of the reporters today. He seemed very excited about the idea of us having another since he missed the first one.

Want to hear about success?

Our first Silent Protest drew in a couple who were from Boston. They were in town to have lunch with their daughter, she was retiring from the Army after 32 years, they saw us on the Market Square and pulled over to join us.

How awesome is that?

So many things are coming up, if you want to see what we have planned just go to our meetup group (link above) sign up, and take a peek at what we have going on. Then join us in the events, we will be happy to meet you!

To all of the people who have worked so hard to help me and this organization I would like to say thank you so very much. Without you, this would not be possible.

Storm